As I was leaving the dentist office, gums sore from the unapologetic hygentist who spent 20 minuts dutifully scraping my teeth, I received a most unexpected phone call.
It was Maxine, the director of our Adoption Agency. The agency had a new birth mom that needed to be matched with a family. And the agency thought our family would make the perfect match!
(Fast forward to 5 hours after receiving phone call)
FREAKING out doesn't acuratly capture the moment. We wearn't sure what to be more excited about, the fact that we might have a baby in October OR the fact that we were being chosen based on the very reason we were rejected for 2 years. (Jane requested a family with personal experience with addiction...God has such a sense of humor!)
Only one slight problem...we were getting ready to leave town for almost two weeks. That meant I needed to chat with Jane* on the phone, create a scrapbook for Jane* representing our entire life AND get said scrapbook in the mail...all in the span of about 48 hours.
So what's a girl to do other than to get scrapbookin'.
Monday, June 13th
24 hours later, with lots of tantrum throwing (by me) and little sleep, I finished the scrapbook and got it mailed off.
We were out of town, but Jane and I continued to stay in contact via text and phone calls. She contacted me as soon as she received the scrapbook in the mail and texted me a few times just to say hello.
Throughout the time I spent with Jane on the phone, I came to genuinly respect her for the hard life she had survived and for the promising choices she was making for her own children.
This was not Jane's first child, infact this new baby would be her 4th child...Jane was even a grandma. While, I can't say that I fully understand all the choices Jane made in her life, I can say that we had one thing in common: We both wanted whats best for our kids.
June 29th
Talked to Jane on the phone and made plans for Chip and I to meet her in person.
July2nd
I called Jane to let her know we had purchased our plane tickets and that we would see her soon! She said that the baby had done a backflip when he heard the news!!!
July 8th
Got another most surprising call from Maxine (the director of the agency). Apparently, Jane had decided to marry the baby's father and would no longer be needing the agency's services.
Jane texted the information to the agency citing she does not like confrontation. We haven't heard from her since.
July 11th
We canceled our flight reservations and I dropped more scrapbooks off at the agency.
We are now back on the waitlist with no gurantees this story won't be repeated.
Although we were shocked at Jane's decision, we know that in the end she has every right to parent her child and we only hope that this marriage will be the answer to life's problems as she no doubt hopes.
July 20th (today after turning on my computer to finish this post)
We discover that last night the agency showed our scrapbook to another birth mom. Now we wait to hear whether or not she picked us!
wow.
ReplyDeletewow on so many levels.
this is the up and down for the waiting parent as well as the brokenness of the world demonstrated really.
Soon, hopefully soon.